The world is a mess as it is and we demand breaks and happiness in our lives. There are many types of people in the world with varying personalities, moreover, it is estimated that in the span of our lives, we are likely to meet almost every type of a person. With that thought in mind, its quite possible to meet a lot of different kinds of people with unique personalities in our dating life – even narcissistic men.
First things first, Narcissism is not a teenager looking into a mirror to see how they look, narcissism is not a women checking herself out and smiling at herself, and most certainly, narcissism is not a person asking another to take 65483 pictures of them in different poses (yes, the numbers were typed at random to prove a point.)
Narcissism Personality Disorder is a very real and sometimes a dangerous psychological illness. It runs deeper than just having a high self-esteem and confidence. Despite the fact that even today we hear the term “narcissist” being loosely tossed around for many person who show even a hint of selfishness, that is not the case. Narcissism Personality Disorder makes the person perceive themselves as superior, important and valid, as compared to the other general public. They have a boosted sense of self even to the point of being a toxic personality.
Its safe to assume that an un-diagnosed narcissist dating partner can be extremely emotionally draining and tiring. Narcissistic men in relationships construct and structure the relationship around on their own terms and conditions. They demand constant praise, approval and appreciation. However, here is your very own guide on how to properly detect and identify a narcissistic man in a relationship.
Types Of Narcissistic Men In Relationships
There are two types of Narcissistic men in relationships:
Type One: The Vulnerable Narcissist
The first type of a Narcissist is the Vulnerable Narcissist. They come off as intimidating, superior and authoritative. Despite the constant maintenance of a person well deserving of entitlement and appreciation, deep in their core, they are insecure, weak, inferior and vulnerable. They pretend to be superior externally as compensation for their insecurity and vulnerability in their cores.
Type Two: The Grandiose Narcissist
The second type of a narcissist is the Grandiose Narcissist. These types are are not only superior, authoritative, confident, possessing high-self esteem externally, but as well as internally. In some cases, they really are a great personality as they believe themselves to be.
Identification Of Narcissistic Men In Relationships
So we have learned that there are two types of narcissist. Here are the most basic signs to look out for to tell if your man is a narcissist or not. However, you must remember that just checking off one or two signs does not mean that he indeed is a narcissist; look for a cluster of signs with an objective point of view.
Sign #1: He Is The Focal Point In Conversations
Relationships are a two way process in which communication plays an essential role. However, narcissistic men in relationships perceive themselves to be the most important and the best thing in life, thus, they tend to be the only ones getting to talk and keep the topic revolving around themselves. In healthy relationships, both the partners are interested to know what is going around in their partner’s life and thus they ask questions back and forth. However, a narcissistic man in relationship only talks about himself.
Sign #2: Rules Don’t Apply To Him
A narcissist person has a boosted sense of self; they assume themselves to be better, superior and important as compared to the general population. Due to this mindset, they don’t consider themselves to be in the same category as the rest of crowd and thus, all rules that apply to the crowd, they exempt themselves from. Narcissistic men in relationships will be constantly observed breaking rules like cutting in lines, etc. The most important sign is when they get mad at some other person who breaks the same rule.
Sign #3: He Never Own Up To His Mistakes
Narcissists are obsessed with the idea of perfect. They believe themselves to be perfect and incapable of making any mistakes or being the one to be blamed for any failure. Narcissistic men in relationships are extremely toxic and emotionally draining because they set the consequences of a mistake entirely on you, i.e. they rest the blame for everything on you and never believe anything to be their fault.
Sign #4: He Easily Gets Offended
Looking back at the previous point, narcissists believe themselves to be perfect and incapable of making any mistakes. Any blame on their name threatens their image of being “perfect” and thus, they can get extremely offended and even aggressive if they are blamed for a mistake. If you find this trait in your man, then watch out!
Sign #5: He Only Loves You Conditionally
Healthy relationships are built on unconditional love: both the parties keep giving, however, when due to life one partner fails to give, the other still keep giving. This is called unconditional love, i.e. no conditions attached to their love for you. However, with narcissistic men in relationships, there exists only conditional love; if you fail to deliver their expectations, like give them constant praise, approval, appreciation and importance, be the “perfect” dating partner, basically worship them, etc, then they will stop loving you.
Sign #6: He Threatens And Manipulates You
Narcissistic men in relationships can be extremely manipulative, even to the point of it being dangerous. Narcissists have a need to feel superior, important and perfect, and to fulfill this need, they are ready to travel far and wide, in some cases, even to the point of manipulating you! Apart from the manipulation, a narcissist can even threaten you. This is one of the more abusive and toxic sides of being in a relationship with a narcissistic.
So you have now learned (through an objective eye) that your partner is a narcissist. Here is how you handle them.